As the new year is upon us, I have taken some time off to get my mind right, as well as get ready for my upcoming podcast. However, I wanted to fire off a quick blog post, discussing something that I had mentioned on my twitter feed, and a topic that has been discussed at length in the manosphere.
Also, the topic of today’s blog, that of “leagues”, was the center of a heated debate among my family during the holiday break. As my last relationship ended, many in my circle were very supportive of me, but the questions arose about the “type” of woman I was looking for.
Was I “aiming too high”? Convinced that I was not “being realistic” about the type of women I “needed” to start looking at? Were they “out of my league”?
This begs the question, “What are leagues and how do they work?”
No doubt you’ve heard the expression, “She’s out of your league.” It’s an expression that basically equates to a girl being too attractive for certain class of guys. The HB Scale, which I’ve talked about on here briefly, show’s where a woman lands on a man’s scale of attractiveness. Women obviously have a way to gauge a man’s attractiveness, and as looks, personality, and game go, they are very important in the world. There’s no getting around it.
But what makes leagues so important is that thanks to hypergamy and the feminine imperative (FI), they have been implemented to have men pre-qualify themselves before even approaching a woman. The simple statement of “she’s out of your league” tells a man to not even try to approach an HB 8-9 because he’s been convinced the best he can ever get is a 6 or 7.
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This is done on purpose. The reason you see many of the memes and comics today of women at the office dismissing (or even reporting) a unattractive beta male who compliments her versus a hot alpha who compliments her and she’s in bed with that same night, is because of hypergamy, and the use of leagues (hence the double standard).
So what does this mean? It means the sooner you know a woman’s true nature (red pill), the sooner you can understand that one of the many ways women pre-screen their male choices is by creating the “league”. As Rollo and Michelangelo stated, “it’s not that you aim too high and miss, it’s that you aim too low and succeed.”
The bottom line: As soon as you realize that leagues are an invention to dismiss your worth to a woman, the sooner you realize that you can have any woman you want. Any woman.
Of course, Rollo has a great deal to speak about leagues, but I bring this up because of what happened to me personally. As I have been dating quite a bit, I have bumped up against this use by some women of the “out of your league”, but I’ve never really spoke about it until the debate with some of my family over the holiday.
As the topic came up, it dealt with the class of woman that I have been dating, or attempting to date. A comment was made that I need to “stay in my lane” in terms of women, by my ex-wife as it turned out (I am still very good friends with her). Her ideas of the type of woman I would date were out of whack, as well as funded in fantasy. My last relationship was with an HB 7-8, and this surprised certain members of my family. But you can see the underlying codex, that of leagues, permeates the fabric of dating life.
It shows you just how much the FI affects the world in pursuit of their goals.
The statements made were mostly about the type of girl I should be looking for, rather than the type of girl I want. And while I understand the concern of my family as they feel like I’ll be let down but thinking I can have any woman, I can also attest to the fact that I won’t disqualify myself without giving it a shot. And Wayne Gretsky stated, “We miss 100% of the shots we don’t take.” But my success with women has increased a ton just by throwing off what I am “supposed” to do and not “staying in my lane.”
But this realization also comes with a side of cold, hard truths. Knowing what you know about leagues still won’t get you into bed with an HB9. And bagging such a woman should not be your primary goal.
You need to work. Work on yourself. Work on your physique, work on your game, work on you. You’ll find that if your self improvement is primary goal, the secondary goals will start becoming easier, especially when gaming women. Nothing substitutes for hard work. When you up yourself, you make the percentages of success that much more attainable.
Women are people, just like you and I. They are nothing special, and those that think they are delude themselves and their followers. The more you approach women, the more comfortable you get with it. The notion of a league is an invented nonsense. The sooner you realize that, the better.
So, as you go into this new year, remove another imagined barrier between yourself and the girls you want.