Throughout my red pill journey, questions inevitably come up when I’m talking with friends, family, and men I’m trying to reach about why I decided to do this whole thing.
There is an inherent risk to what I am doing, as it completely flies in the face of everything I was taught, as well as it’s not exactly politically correct to believe certain aspects of the Red Pill.
One thing I stress as a RP aware blogger is the conditions that I describe that happened to me are not unique to my situation. I speak about my experience with certain women because what has been described at length in the manosphere HAS happened to me.
The RP narrative hits close to home for me because of the women I’ve been with. But this certainly doesn’t apply to all women, as dealing in generalities is a dangerous game that I won’t play.
As I type this, I’m constantly bombarded with articles citing the RP as a misogynistic practice put forth by losers who have an axe to grind with women they were dumped by, who they couldn’t ask out, or who cheated on them. They claim that the manosphere is rife with basement dwelling keyboard jockeys who couldn’t get laid, much less get a woman to notice them. They claim that the RP gives men unlimited reasons to trash women, complain about not getting laid, contemplate violent thoughts, and other horrible issues that RP is sometimes attached to.
However, this is not the red pill I know. This is sects of crazies dedicated to perverting red pill truths into their own distorted reality. There is blame of women for their lot in life. These are the incels. This is misogyny. This is anger. These are men who need help.
I wish to pursue a more blatant definition of the red pill, that of positive masculinity. A man must take responsibility for himself, his circumstances, and make the best choice available. A man must constantly work to improve himself, not only for him, but for those who rely on him. A man must be a father, to support his children in a positive role, helping to raise them to become well adjusted adults.
As many studies have shown, a strong, masculine presence is essential to raising a well adjusted child. Men need to grow up and take responsibility for their choices, which in many situations they don’t. I can’t tell you the amount of dead beat dads that I know of, who ran off to whatever they were after, only to leave their kids and significant other in need of that masculine presence. A man needs to lead, not cut and run. We as men need to take the reins back and show people how amazing dads are, and continue to raise the next generation to know how to be a successful husband and father.
There are many more areas a man can take more responsibility. A man can take care of his own birth control. Wearing a condom not only prevents sexually transmitted diseases, but it also prevents unwanted pregnancies, as well as showing a woman you’re in control of your body. Men need to take a greater role in birth control.
I love women. Femininity is an amazing thing that I absolutely adore. That being said, there are many women out there that fit the red pill narrative to a tee. Helping men to recognize these signs and what they can do to maximize their efforts with women in their lives is only going to strengthen the bonds between both sexes. Some women won’t say no to a better man, especially one who exhibits more alpha tendencies. And studies do show that women do prefer aggressive, alpha based males over their counterparts. The dads or cads allure is real (also known in the manosphere as “Alpha Fucks and Beta Bucks”). Alpha males, in my opinion, are real, or at least their most attractive tendencies are.
Also, there is a concerted effort by crazy feminists to destroy men. They do want equality, they want a gender war. I’m not only staunchly against misogyny, but the natural lean of some fringe feminists is to spread misandry, which is just as bad as misogyny. Two wrongs don’t make a right. Men and women are equal, but that doesn’t mean we aren’t different. Both sexes have strengths and weaknesses. And yes, I do believe in traditional gender roles. But the fight against the traditional gender roles can go too far sometimes.
We can’t even have a Christmas song…
|Source: Craig James, The Family Alpha|
Why do I do this?
Men need to be men again.
Why do I do this?
I want to share my experiences with other men to help them become better.
Why do I do this?
Because men are being portrayed as expendable, and we aren’t even the majority sex on this planet.
Why do I do this?
Because men are reaching out in their loveless marriages to me, and asking me what they can do to be with their wives intimately again.
Why do I do this?
Because sex is one of the most important things in a relationship for men. And any man that tells you different doesn’t know what he’s talking about. As Rollo Tomassi states, “Sex is the glue that holds a marriage together.”
But the most important reason is a lesson to all men. A lesson a friend of mine learned first hand, and a lesson I won’t forget:
I had a very good friend from college some 20 years ago whom I kept in touch with. He was a great dad, great husband, and was as I was, a blue pill beta. He married his wife after they met in college, and she was his one and only sexual partner. We grew apart, as some friends do, but I always made it a point to at least call him once or twice a year to see how he was. His kids were just a bit older than mine, and we’d talk about our lives.
One night, he reached out to me when I was still married, and was concerned about his marriage. He and his wife had not had sex in over a year, and there he was, in a loveless marriage. He was out of shape, working a job he hated, and concerned that something had happened. I simply told him, in my blue pill state at that time, that “everything will work out. Just be yourself. Go to counseling with your wife if you think there’s a problem.”
After that conversation, I didn’t talk to him much anymore. After some sporadic conversations about two months later, I lost touch with him. It wasn’t until about 5 years ago that his name came up again, this time, for something that shocked me as a man to the core.
I had a chance to catch up with a mutual friend at a bar. I asked how my friend was, and she replied very solemnly.
Turns out, my friend had attempted counseling with his wife. They went for a few sessions, but she abruptly stopped going. One day, she approached him with the news. She had been cheating on him for over 2 years with a guy she met at work. She said she didn’t love him anymore, and he was devastated. He had done everything by the book and had wasted his life on a woman who didn’t love or respect him. And all because he was doing what society said he was supposed to do.
As our mutual friend spoke, her voice cracked. “He committed suicide just three months after he found out. It was heartbreaking.” I couldn’t believe it. I was speechless.
This story speaks to all men. It spoke to me, and it and other stories like it drive me to make men better for themselves. I can’t save those who we’ve lost, but I can try to prevent this from happening again.
Men are 3.5 times more likely to commit suicide than women. I need to do what I can to help remember those like my friend, who had his whole life ahead of him, but was never unplugged to live life for himself. I can’t save him anymore, but I can save myself, and I can save other men.
I can attempt to push back, from our terribly unfair family court system in the US to cataloging my attempts to learn game, from chronicling my life as a father to my constant state of learning about interpersonal relationships between men and women, but my wish is to inform.
To sum it up, Chris Rock recently released a comedy special that has a controversial quote, but one I tend to believe in to some extent. It certainly drives home some points of the blue pill world I experienced:
I want my life to be a blueprint for how to be a red pill man. I want to raise my kids with a strong, masculine presence. I want to be the best version of myself I can be.
And now, you know why I do this.